Lobo starts the song by saying that he don't talk much and that he don't have a lot to say. As far as luck in love is concerned,"if it is not bad luck, I have no love at all"

That song brings back my memories of the year 1975.

I was worse than the opening line of Lobo. He didn't talk much because he didn't  have much to say.⁹

I don't talk at  all to girls i like because I am too afraid to say anything. I do not expect to have any good luck of having the friendship of any girl.

I was 17 years old and have not tried to be friends with any girls before because I did not expect that girls would want to be friends with a 🐛 like me.

I had been admiring a girl for over a year. She always sat at the front of the class while I sat near the back of the class.

I did not even dare to look at her face to face and smile. So how could I be bold enough to talk to her.

I was so strongly attracted to her but was too afraid to do anything. When she was around, I felt like what Lobo said in his song.

I felt like a cowboy afraid of horses. A sailor scared to death of the sea. A magician with his hands tied behind him.

Too terrified and unable to do  anything. How could I approach her?

Think of having a friendship but not doing anything  except being a secret admirer.

NATO : No Action Think Only

This went on for about a year and time was  running out. There was going to be another few months of classes  after which I will not see her anymore. 

After  much agonising I did something that would require only 1 or 2 seconds of contact. Pass a note to her when she was walking out of the classroom.

After more than 47 years, I can still remember the exact wording of what I wrote in the note. I had agonised so much over what to write.

" If you do not mind, I would very much like that we be friends"

Those 14 words expressed my intense desire and also my fears/insecurity.

I desperately wanted to be friends but did not expect her to want to be friends.

What if she minded and do not want a friendship? 

What was her response to the note? 

On that day itself  - no response. She took the note and left.

The word used by Lobo could be used to describe her on the next class - "Nonchalant"

I will use another song by Lobo to describe what I felt about her nonchalant response.

To be continued in a separate  post.

PS to Dr Kit Oi Chung 

After you, I had minor attractions to other girls but it was back to being NATO only. untill the girl who would become my only real GIRLFRIEND came along. She is the only person that I have ever been on a date with.

You and my only girlfriend are the only 2 persons who are special enough to make me non NATO.

Now you know how much I admired and respected you .