My wife just told me something that is bothering me
So background info I (32m), and my wife (30f) and I have known each other since we were teens. We have been together for 7 years and have been married and committed 5 years. Neither of us is completely straight. We've both had relationships with people of varying gender identities in the past, and we both acknowledge and accept that we have a past that's not a problem. Anybody I've had any type of relationship with that she didn't want me to still be friends with, I dropped, including my BFF. She has let me know about people she's had past relationships with that she is still friends with, and I've never made her drop them because I trust her.
Now, onto the pertinent information, tonight we were playing cards against humanity and a card saying something like "my first kiss was awkward because" came up. After we played that round, she mentioned her first kiss was awkward because it was with her childhood best friend (30f), and I was surprised and said, "Wow, I didn't know that." She then told me she actually lost her virginity to her as well and was like, "Didn't you know we dated for like 3 years?" I said "No, why didn't you tell me?" She just brushed it off and said "its no big deal, I just forgot to tell you." I told her I thought it was a big deal because we previously had a conversation about our past relationships that we were still friends with. She made me drop a bunch of my friends. She said she told me about all of the people but just happened to forget to mention a past relationship with her best friend who she spends a lot of time with and is even going to spend time alone with on an upcoming trip. I trust her not to cheat on me or do anything out of pocket, and i told her that, but it also bothers me that she thinks it's no big deal that she didn't tell me. She just keeps brushing me off and saying it doesn't matter.
Honestly, I don't know how to feel about this situation, but I do know it definitely doesn't feel good. I wish she would just acknowledge that it's valid for me to be upset she didn't tell me when I know she would be very upset if roles were reversed.